Finding out that your mate or spouse is having an affair is a dramatic event.  Feelings of angry and mistrust quickly surface.  How you coupe with it is very important.  Feelings of inadequacies with the questions of “What’s wrong with me? ” and “What did I do to deserve this?” come to light as well.  Unfortunately, questions about intimacy and desires are not communicated before hand.  How To Regain Intimacy After An Affair is a common question that both men and women ask themselves everyday.  What do you think is the best way to address this question?


  • bigjim says:

    How to regain intimacy after an affair? Easy, go out and have sex with a whole lotta women and you will over it. That’s what I did and it worked fine for me!

  • bob says:

    Apparently I logged on at the right time. BigJim, there is something seriously wrong with you and now I know. Obviously you are a man that is scorn. How to regain intimacy after an affair is very serious matter. Many people ponder the answer to this same question. It is not easy, but you can’t blame the next person for what someone else did. It is a day by day process and takes time. How much time is up to you. But if you decide to stay with that person, you must be willing to forgive, not forget. Learn from the experience and go forward from there. Both you and the person that cheated on you must be willing to talk and work through this difficult time. The cheater must be willing to do what it takes to make you feel secure and that you can once again trust them. If they are unwilling to undertake this simple, yet difficult task, then you should leave them alone! Trust, Communication and then Intimacy once again after you feel comfortable.

  • nightowl says:

    Finding out that your partner is having an affair is never easy. I don’t feel that anyone can or will ever fully recover from such an act. It is, in my opinion, a selfish act! If you can’t be happy with the one that your with, then leave them alone!

  • ohmy says:

    I never recovered from my spouse cheating on me. I felt that the best thing to do was to leave her alone because I knew that I would do nothing more than torture her if I accepted her back.

    • nissomo06 says:

      What caused your spouse to cheat ? was it you or something else that nether here nor there. Just do the things you need to do to fix your issues an continue to spontaneous stuff so that you do not think of the affair an pour double energy back into your mate or spouse. Their is nothing impossible believe in your mojo an makes some happen even better than before.

  • dreamcctrue says:

    Love is should help you to over-come but it don’t, it depends on the person if they can truly trust again. I’m not good at this topic, however I believe if the person that who cheated on you is sincere and not do things to cause suspicion on their self then yes a person can recover. But then again it that person tends to attracted doggs or doggets that there may be no solution until they can figure out what is it about there self that keeps attracting these kind of people?????? Um………..

  • nightowl says:

    How to regain intimacy after an affair is very difficult to say the least. The dishonesty and the fact of being with someone else other than your mate is very hard to stomach. The very thought of someone sharing themselves with another is hard to believe especially when you have been faithful in the relationship. Feelings of disgust may often come to mind when you think of what possibly transpired during the whole affair, but it is important to ask yourself, is the relationship is worth savaging? What are you willing to do in order to make it work, individual and couples counseling? And most importantly, can you trust that person every again? How to regain intimacy after an affair is a difficult question to answer, I feel that it is up to the individual person and what is important to them. However, with any issue in any relationship, communication is the key, so how do you regain intimacy after an affair, talk, talk and more talk.

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