Finding out that your mate or spouse is having an affair is a dramatic event. Feelings of angry and mistrust quickly surface. How you coupe with it is very important. Feelings of inadequacies with the questions of “What’s wrong with me? ” and “What did I do to deserve this?” come to light as well. Unfortunately, questions about intimacy and desires are not communicated before hand. How To Regain Intimacy After An Affair is a common question that both men and women ask themselves everyday. What do you think is the best way to address this question?